Is the Sexual Intimacy in Your Relationship Less Than Satisfactory?
Sexual intimacy is a critical component in a healthy relationship. Many people struggle to understand just how important sex is to their relationship and they often lack the ability to make changes. What do you do when one person in the relationship no longer desires to have sex? How do you communicate your sexual needs to your partner? How do you let your partner know that you have feelings of sexual frustration? How do you balance healthy sexuality and still find time to parent?
Common sexual and intimacy issues we deal with at our office include helping people to identify and express their needs to their partner and to find solutions that are mutually agreeable. Specific issues clients commonly report are: desire/sexual frequency discrepancies, boredom with their current sexual relationship, pain during sexual intercourse, and managing a healthy sex life after children.
Sexual Difficulties Are A Topic That Many People Avoid Discussing
According to a 2016 online article by the Mayo Clinic, sexuality is just one aspect of human nature. As humans, we all yearn to love and to be loved. One way we express that love is through physical contact. Despite the fact that sexuality is heavily flaunted in everyday advertising, sexual health and sexual difficulties are the one topic that many people avoid discussing. Without having a reliable source to seek out answers to questions, many people feel trapped in their own self-doubt, wondering if what they’re feeling is even normal.
Sexual desire and sexual needs can vary throughout a person’s lifetime. Sexual dissatisfaction is not just something that impacts older individuals and it’s not something most people are prepared for when it does come up.
Studies show that the years following the birth of a child can be some of the most challenging and dissatisfying times for a couple.
How Can Sex Therapy Help?
What is sex therapy? According to the Mayo clinic “Sex therapy is a type of psychotherapy – a general term for treating mental health problems by talking with a mental health professional. Through sex therapy, you address concerns about sexual functioning, sexual feelings and intimacy, either in individual therapy or in joint therapy with your partner. Sex therapy can be effective for individuals of any age, sex or sexual orientation.”
Sex therapy does not involve touching or physical contact.
While Internet searches may provide some of the answers people seek, the Internet isn’t always the most reliable place to find solutions. For example, an Internet search may suggest that someone use lubricant if they’re experiencing pain during vaginal penetration. For some people, this may reduce the amount of pain experienced. However, others may find no relief. When Internet searches fail you, consultation with a trained Sex Therapist may offer the support you need.
What Can I Expect From Sex Therapy?
Our trained sex therapist has the ability to create a safe space so that people feel more comfortable talking about their intimate issues. She understands that many people may find the topic of sexuality to be difficult to discuss and is able to help people overcome their difficulties talking about sex. She provides a supportive and non-judgmental environment.
Talking about intimate issues like sex is often something people would rather avoid discussing. Many people are afraid to bring up sexual issues because they fear that their problem is unique and not something someone else would understand. For others, they wonder exactly how talking about issues can actually solve those issues.
These are understandable concerns. However, what research has shown is that talk therapy does provide the healing relief that many people seek. Therapy can be both enlightening and healing and can often help people become aware of new ways of making changes and improving sexual intimacy.
How We Can Help
Working with a therapist trained in sexual health issues is recommended, and many therapists lack specific training in sexual health and sexual relationship issues. Our counselor, Angelique Hillendahl, has completed extensive training in various issues of sexual health through the Texas Sex Therapy Institute and has provided sex therapy services for individuals and couples for the past two years. She has helped people explore their sexuality, guided couples through delicate issues, and helped them make desired changes in their sexual lives.
Healthy sexuality is a normal part of human life. While taking the first step to work on improving your sexual health may seem unimportant and maybe even embarrassing, many sexual problems can be addressed in just a few sessions with a trained therapist. For some people sexual difficulties are a symptom of other relationship problems such as emotional disconnection. Individuals and couples with multiple relationship issues can often benefit from an initial assessment to determine if sex therapy is the best modality of treatment for your specific concerns. Our company has trained therapists that specialize in other modalities of therapy. If you feel like you’re ready to begin to improve your relationship by addressing sexual problems, please feel free to call our office and book your initial session.